Fathers are many things to many people. As a father myself I have had plenty of time over the years to reflect upon what a father should be, or at least strive to be.
As a young and growing child we look up to our father, literally and figuratively. We see dad as being strong, capable and achieving, idealistic, contemplative, stern, authoritative, disciplinary, loving, understanding, sometimes confused or angered by our actions, giving of guidance…and so much more.
A parent is perceived in many different ways by their child, hopefully with love, admiration, respect and most of all perhaps…with great thanks.
We think back to our teenage years especially when we weren’t so sure of dad’s motives or intentions and our moodiness, anger, obstinacy and rejection of all things parental was at the forefront of our existence. Having had teenage kids of my own I now understand the many complexities and frustrations on both sides.
Fathers have, or perhaps should have, a great sense of anxiety and anticipation as they watch their children grow into young adults, struggling with their own sense of purpose, self-worth and accountabilities in the world around them.
Our local community, and indeed around the globe, has changed dramatically over the decades, in some ways more tolerant and in many respects much less tolerant. Social pressures of today seem monumental in size and complexity.
Fathers so often look back to the way things were when they were a child and struggle with understanding the choices and decisions of today. How do I, as a father, act or react upon a situation today that may have been handled so differently in years past? Will it be so difficult for my sons and my grandchildren in the years ahead?
Despite the many challenges in life today we should ever be thankful for all the goodness, love and caring that parents provide over the years through good and bad. After all, we as parents only want the very best for our children and hopefully we suitably convey that wish to our kids without prejudice.
And so it is with these few thoughts that I give pause to give love and thanks to my own father who has given so much of himself over the years to see that his family has had the very best that life can offer.
Father’s arm by shoulders reach
An outstretched hand he greets
Guiding, calming, reassures
Support in every sense
Firm to right a seeming wrong
A knowing glance, few words
Convey his presence, fortitude
So meaningful his ways
Lead us Dad towards a path
Your feet would surely walk
Thank you Dad for all you are
And we aspire to be
Love, Your Son
Friends around the globe, please join me to give thanks and admiration this Father’s Day.
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